What We Learn

One of the things I admire most about my husband is his voracious appetite for learning. He reads mostly non-fiction books on a variety of topics, including sports, history, travel, math and the English language. Oftentimes, he will read a passage aloud to me from one of his tomes, or he will call me over to the computer to read me something he's found on the internet. The cool thing is, he retains much of what he reads.

This comes in very handy when we're touring the Smithsonian. He will pull obscure facts from the recesses of his memory and share them as we walk through museum. I am constantly amazed. It occurred to me that I take this ability of his for granted. So I started trying to imagine what it would be like if he didn't have this incredible mind of his. And I realized how much I would miss it.

Unlike my husband, I read something, comment on how cool it is, and promptly forget. This causes a certain amount of consternation on my husband's part, especially when he is doing his crossword puzzle, and I can't remember the name of Jane Eyre's charge. (I read a lot of fiction.) My brain just isn't wired that way. I can recall jingles from TV commercials that ran 40 years ago, and I'm very good with song lyrics. I also have a good memory for events that took place at work. But don't ask me who the 26th president is, ask him.

I'm not sure I'm headed anywhere else in particular with this today. I just thought it was right and proper to give kudos to the man who has enlightened me in so many ways over the years.

So, here's to you, Mr. Ginley.

P.S. For those of you playing along at home, Jane Eyre was governess to Adele. And the 26th president was Theodore Roosevelt. Plop, plop, fizz, fizz, oh what a relief it is!

Confessions of a Worry Wart

There's a TV commercial for insurance that features a guy, calling himself "Mayhem," who causes all sorts of accidents. I hate those ads. They're like a streaming video of the scenarios that keep me awake at four o'clock in the morning.

My status as a "worry wart" began at a young age, according to my mother. I fretted over each and every "what if." I once ran into my parents' room in the middle of the night because I knew cursing was a sin, and I'd used a swear word in my dream. I wanted my mom to assure me I wasn't going to hell. Although I would later embrace the colorful language that dots my vocabulary, I am still a worrier.

I sat here for a long time staring at the phrase "worry wart," and it started to looked weirder and weirder to me. (Yes, I have no life to speak of.) So I decided to google it and see what happened.

I learned that the phrase is derivative of "worryguts," an English expression that dates back to 1936. There was a comic strip character named "Worry Wart." Then, in 1956, the phrase gained credibility when it was used in a medical tome to define someone who worries needlessly. (Of course, this information has not been exhaustively researched, so it could be complete bollocks. That's the joy of The Google.)

There is some part of me that believes if you worry about something happening, it won't. Therefore, it's worth worrying about. Yes, this is dumb, but it gives justification to my bouts of fear about the future. The trouble is, there will always be things I don't think of to worry about that will blindside me. So in the grand scheme of things, I'd be much better off not thinking about what could happen.

I look up and the sky, calculate the enormity of the universe and my teeny tiny place in it, and try to leave my troubles behind. I count my blessings. I meditate. I take one day at a time. I do exercises to let go and just be. But alas, it's a struggle.

For now, for this moment, for today, I'm going to be thankful for the chance to spend the holidays with my family. I will make a wish that we are all healthy and in good spirits and able to celebrate cheerfully. I will wish in positive ways, and try not to stray into the dark areas around the edges.

Wish me luck!

P.S. I just read my horoscope for today. It says, "Let go of worry, as it is absolutely pointless." I swear, I didn't make this up!

A Celebration of the Lost Arts

When I'm in the check-out line at the grocery store, I look for coupons, get out my checkbook and try to keep an eye on the cashier to make sure she's keying in the right code for my produce. So I don't always pay attention to the way my bags are being packed. On any number of occasions, I've groaned as I unpacked the bags at home to discover bananas at the bottom of a bag of canned goods. Or eggs tossed in willy-nilly with items that could cause breakage.

There is an art to bag packing. I have met these artisans. Generally, they are mature men in bow ties, who take bagging seriously, rather than the high school boys who view it as a bottom-of-the-totem-pole kind of task. This led me to think about some of the other lost arts in our supersonic fast-paced society.

Here are a few I've come up with...

Typography
If you cruise through magazines from the 1960's and 70's, you will find that type mattered. It was used to convey the look and feel of an ad. It was part of the design. Up-and-coming designers today rely too much on lifestyle and product images to set the tone. They see words as a necessary evil. As if to say, "well, of course, you have to include the 60% off message and all of the disclaimers, but those other words just get in the way." Maybe I'm just sensitive to it because I'm a word person. But the words, the way they look and feel can convey emotion just as effectively as a photograph.

Frugality
My mother used everything. And used it. And used it. Aluminum foil was not a one-time gig. Nor was string or plastic bags or even milk cartons. Towels became rags and rags became threadbare. A lot of them did not leave the premises until after she did. My parents and their parents lived through the Depression, which was largely why they were reluctant to let go of anything. Food was not left on our plates growing up. Over-ripe bananas were made into banana bread. Stale bread was ground into breadcrumbs. My mother was appalled when she saw waste. She was a proponent of recycling long before it became fashionable.

Letter Writing
Yes, we have email. And yes, I have succumbed to the evils of electronic communication. But I still get a thrill when snail mail arrives in my beat-up metal letter box. I love that someone took the time and effort to write to me. This is not to discourage those who email with their news. There are many advantages to the speed and efficiency of email. But speed has its price...words sent this way are often dashed off in haste, unedited and uncrafted. Letter writing is a lost art.

Movie Making
These days, it's all about the special effects. There are very few new ideas in Hollywood. If you doubt this, think about all of the remakes (or remakes of remakes) that have been released over the last several years. The original Star Wars was filmed in a garage with home made props. Computer technology didn't exist in the movie industry at that time. It all had to be done by hand, frame by frame. That took imagination and ingenuity and persistence. With all of the instant graphics at hand today, something grand has been lost.

I'm certain there are lots of other lost arts. Feel free to comment with your own. For now, I'm a little blue.

Maybe I'll go bake something. Or curl up with a book and some classic Christmas music. Ahh, that's better. Thanks, Dad. Thanks, Mom.

Toying with My Affection

When the toy catalog from Toys R Us arrived in our newspaper a couple of weeks ago, I knew the holiday season was off to its official start. The whole toy thing is really below my radar. My son is in college now, so my shopping list will consist of things like gift cards, clothes and X-Box accessories.

When he was small, I was up on the latest trends, although he rarely asked for the hottest toys. So I wasn't inclined to get caught up in the mad dash. I do remember going from store-to-store one year, trying to find a Spiderman web shooter. It straps to your wrist and spews the equivalent of Silly String. I was so proud of myself for finding it. He played with it once. Maybe twice. The toy he loved best as a child was his set of Thomas the Tank Engine trains and track. He played for hours, days, weeks, with those trains. I used to read him the original stories by Reverend W. Awdry. Then I'd hear him playing with the trains later, saying things like, "Cinders and Ashes, Percy, we're going to crash!"

To me, that's what toys are all about.

Playing my new "Beatles Flip Your Wig" Game

Lately, I've been thinking about the toys that shaped my own childhood. I still have my first slinky. And the dolls, much loved, but incapable of doing anything but blinking their eyes. I have my (one and only one) Barbie doll, complete with the original bubble cut, a few outfits and some mismatched shoes. From my mom I snarfed the cardboard frame puzzles we played with. Then there were the games. Christmas Day was our annual game fest, when we cleared the kitchen table (or living room floor) and played board games. My pride and joy was the Beatles Flip Your Wig Game. We had the classics like Clue, Risk, Monopoly and Life, plus card games. One sister had Barbie Queen of the Prom. My other sister had a game with a small purple princess phone that you had to dial for instructions. It took the place of the dice.

Then there were the crafty toys. Looms for making pot holders. The Easy Bake Oven. The too-hot toy that made creepy, crawly bugs so our brothers could torture us (like they needed help). The Spirograph. The white building blocks that were the predecessor to Legos. The Lincoln Logs.

Just out of curiosity, I googled to see what this year's hottest toys are. Although in some ways they have become a little more complex (and obviously more high tech) the themes are essentially the same. Included on the list were Legos, a make-your-own-bracelet kit, Elmo, a couple of board games and some dolls. My favorite of these was an "exclusive" by Toys R Us called the "Tub & Toot Doll." Yes, it does what you think it does. Complete with bubbles. I may have to get one for myself.

Christmases are much quieter these days. I can sleep in -- in fact, I'll probably be the first one up this year. That's nice, in a way. But I will reminisce about those Christmases past, when a family of eight swarmed around the tree and ripped open presents and spent the day together.

Am I glossing over the fights and disappointments that also took place on those long-ago Christmases? Of course. But they're my memories, and I'm sticking to them!